Parenting

#Parenting

As we know that social/moral/ethical issues happens in society. We all protest against it but  as we know that too it change start from self. In order to bring any change in society we need to start it from ourselves.

Hundreds of cases we see or read in newspapers/blogs/television/social media. Unethical things happens with most of the girls and now it started with boys to i.e (few week earlier at karachi tariq road reported case).

Did anyone asked from himself why? Why these things happend? Why our children ( all of these are our children I belive do.bad things) act like this? Harass people (mostly women) why they pass comments? Stare or even some go to extreme u ethical criminal activities like rape? Tell me how many of us talk about this with out children Or even bothered asked from their children or daughters about any such issue happend with them? Anyone?....

I am sure not but few. As i said above it start from self. Family instituion is the first place where a child start learning. #Parenting yes it matter alot and it the base from which a child may move in good direction or bad direction.

We need to start educating them about moral or ethical values. Educate them spend time with them. Buying them an Applie Iphone or a laptop or financing them for a higher degree isnt a full stop. It might become a well higher degree person not a Respected or honorable Man.

Spend time with your children. Talked about their daily progress. Taught them how to speak, how to respond to anyone. How to tackle a bad moment. After puberty certain changes occurs in their appearnce or body their interest changes. Yes literally talk to them and dont be ashamed of it that how could a father talk to his son about this or a mother to his daughter. Educate them as many cases of abuse reported because of no proper knowing of children about this.. Educate them that dont allow someone to touch you or manipulate you.

These are small things that matter alot and because of lack of this kinda education from parents. Women are feeling unsafe, child abuse happens.

Lets start from now and from ourselves so that we could march towards a peaceful and morally well reputed society.

Equality before law

“Equality before law” and how much state role in important in implementation of rule of law is a question that needs an answer, to be realistic the answer is that it depends how much state is interested. The current status of our country it’s not moving towards development not even a bit, reason inequality, a student work day and night to get a degree and a good position but at the end a person with no knowledge at all get what he didn’t deserve and the deserved person fell in havoc and results in moving towards illegal business and criminal activity because, stomach need food and food needs money and money need job and job needs reference or money it’s a fact in case of Pakistan. Among the thousands of criminal cases that happened in Pakistan the root cause will be inequality and injustice. A culprit is set free and an innocent is jailed for years that turn out in revenge at last. So the government will play a role when they are interested in human when they agree to invest on human and its citizens. It is important that the son of a minister study with me at government school or me as a poor man study with the son of a minister. Equality need sacrifices, sacrifices of you luxury, of highness and it’s the equality that can bring peace and prosperity.  

Tolerance can be a hope for Better world

Tolerance as we can define it’s an aptitude to understand and bear things that are unpleasant to you. I consider tolerance as supreme power of an individual, because as we see people nowadays intolerant and become violent very quickly. So I can define it as a supreme nurture of oneself that motivate his body and his/her mind to absorb unpleasant things. Now how tolerance can be a new hope for a better world. As my above definition if a person adopt that quality of tolerance as I said one need to nurture this quality and absorb the odd of others he will not become hyper at all. Yes we need to see the motto behind what a person said, how is his body language his use of words perhaps there might be an answer of his intolerant behavior and we might educate him about that specific issue he is freaked out of. A unite and tolerant society can bring peace and everything is linked with peace and unity. We are all of same kind, by accepting people as they are no matter what caste, religion, color and race they belong to, we need to accept people as they are as they look as they behave. Why that is a person exercising prayer is not equal or even not human in comparison of a person sitting in a church. God didn’t make the difference but we the human did. We are all being manipulated by so called mentors that define us as Muslims or infidels and colored. We need to develop ourselves to defines ourselves as human not as people belonging to certain group or religion. We need to be humans and humanity is the religion that I am belonging to. Tolerance can be a new hope for better world if we unite against the odd and educate ourselves and our children and our family members to accept people their behaviors and don’t freak-out or bother to develop hate. We need love and whole world need love and compassion to share smile and laughter among others, life is a beautiful and temporary things and we need to make it beautiful. At last let me share news with that is very important. “love, compassion, gratitude, smile, happiness and tolerance are some words and emotions that are need to be share with other because they might be vanished at anytime from earth crust so better use is daily and regularly. May God Bless us all and unite us for humanity and brotherhood. 

Independence

What does independent mean? The word independent is a very outrageous word that is being the point of matter from the day first human was sent to earth. Independence, freedom, living freely, these are some things that a human want, it is in the nature of human to live free, to walk free, to run free, to breathe free under the open sky, to travel where ever he want, to speak what he wanted to say.  It’s Human  nature as is as I they resist when they are deprived for this freedom and history is full of such movement that were started for what yes, one and only word independence.

Virginia Woolf (an English writer and one of the foremost modernist of the twentieth century) views independence as “the man who is aware of himself is henceforward independent: and he is never bored and life is only too short and he is steeped through and through with a profound yet temperate happiness”

The word I used for freedom above is outrageous, I guess it a just for it. History never lie, from Nelson Mandela freedom movements to current movement i.e. Kashmir and Palestine, all of the sacrifices they have made, Mandela was imprisoned for 27 years, Pakistan sacrificed a lot of blood to get freedom, Kashmir’s and Palestine’s are still struggling, every day hundred of children, women, and men are killed, bombed by Indian and Zionists, for what because they want independence, they wanted to live freely, they wanted to educate their children with their own customs and rituals, they wanted to sleep a night in peace, they wanted to be seen as humans but the so called civilized world is deaf and blind.

Denis Waitley (an American motivational speaker writer and consultant) says that “the greatest gifts you can give your children are the roots of responsibility and the wings of independence”

That is what independence mean that, mothers are sacrificing they little kids, fathers their young sons, and families their loved one for what for freedom, for independence this is the cost of such an outrageous word independence. This is not only a word, it’s an emotion, a history, defining it need a lot of courage, finger trembles while writing this word, one need to go through a lot of history, the writer needs to watch a lot of bloodshed, cruelty, suffocation, brutalities, beheaded humans, slaughtered children, a lot of tears, a lot of screaming, a lot of heartbreaks and indeed he also need independence from his tears, from his heart just write a simple meaning of independence, as the former President of Vietnam (Ho Chi Minh) said “nothing is more precious that independence and liberty”

Why aren't what we are?

When I am out of home, I see people, of different types, Old and young ages, weak and strong going here and there everyone chasing something. Older ones wanted to live as young once again, young ones aren’t afraid of growing old they don’t even have the idea that one day they will be old like other old people. One they will to feel alone like these, like these old people whom are looking weak, like these which they are ignoring of being outdated and have no sense of trending world.

Younger one has the arrogance of being young, of being strong, of being dominant, arrogant nature, strident voice, sturdy gesture that shows how strong I am. I wanted to know why are all these proud of why I am proud of being young why I haven’t the courage to face that I am going to like them, unaccompanied, depressed, annoying for others, stigmatized of being out fashioned and outdated individual, marginalized by society. Why I can’t feel that pain these old people are facing. And at last an answer to my own question is that the reason of which I wanted to die young?

I see women and young girls, women’s striving for their kids buying stuff for themselves for their household, I have a question from these women is that the reason you are supposed to live is only being a house wife, being a lady that works at home for his husband and kids its totally worth it but I believe there must be so many reason for you to live, to do something that you are proud of other than being a wife, being a daughter being a sister, being a Mother, being a house wife. I wanted you to be like something outstanding something different something that people should talk about proudly, something of which I could say like Wow. Without crossing the limits of our religious and cultural consent, I believe there is an immense difference between being a modern and strong women and being a mucky.

All of these boys and girls, men and women old and young, strong and weak have a dream in their Eyes, a Hope, a vision of something that I wish to know from them, not from them but from all humans and from myself as well; that what am I chasing what is the motive of me to be in this world? Why I am alive? Why I am here? Why I am male? Why these people are alive? Why we fall ill? Why a young one become old? Why aren’t trying to be real us? I believe everyone have something that no one have; every individual have something creative that is worthy and is with him only. And why are we so bounded that we aren’t exposing it. I wish everyone should put it on the table what they got what they have in their minds, forget about people forget about people will laugh, Just bring out things from the locked chamber of your mind and give them colors give them sound, believe me these are the most valuable stuff; that no one have the courage to buy it these are the priceless stuff. Your mind is yours make use if it make valuable things out of it world need it people need it and most of all you need it.?

Terrorism and FATA

Human born free and want to live free, with certain restriction upon him human resist and it’s natural. From the very beginning of time humans want to live with liberty and honor and if it comes to Pukhtoons it’s even a very significant term. Pukhtoons, historians believe that they were the ten lost tribes form Israel and were thrown out of the country due to their aggressive nature. Pakhtoon people they are residing all over the globe specially Khyber Pahtunkhwa and FATA Regions, have a cultural code of honor named as “Pashtunwali” which have many components, including, vengeance the most significant. If we talk about the People that belongs to FATA Belt are more hospitable than rest of Khyber Pakhtunkhwa pakhtoons.

After independence FATA became part of Pakistan though they fights against the British invaders, since 18 century i.e TIRAH Campaign in 1876 in which at the place of Khyber agency many of the British army was killed after that at “wallai” the territory of “Zakha Khel” tribe a formal Jirga(council of elders) was held in which British army agreed to pay taxes to the tribe so that they not attack on British soldiers whom pass through towards Tirah Valley. Here I would mention the views of and elder “Sher” resident of Khyber Agency he says that the local people didn’t have guns at that time though they fights with the help of stones and they throw stones from the mountains. And many other stories of bravery of the region named FATA.

After independence the constitution Pakistan implemented and about FATA article # 1 of the constitution of Pakistan which mention FATA as the region of Pakistan but surprisingly article 247 termed it as FATA will have a separate Administration and which will be under FCR (Frontier Crime Regulation) the blind law which nobody can defend. It’s a kind of joke with the Pakhtoon tribes that at the same time you include them in Pakistan and throw them out as well.

Now the issues which are convicting the people of FATA as terrorist, under which circumstance you consider them as terrorist. Protection of rights, liberty and opportunities is the responsibility of the Government. Now if we review the status of FATA is there any rights protection, is there any liberty any opportunities of course not because I have seen them observe them very keenly. They just hate Pakistan. I am sharing a views of a person belonging to Zakha Khel Tribe at Bazar Khyber Agency, I asked how will you celebrate independence day of Pakistan, it was my visit last day to Khyber Agency where I met him he said “what independence are you a fool we are still in slavery, they bomb on me my child dies every day in shelling from the tanks and jets, my house was burn down how am I suppose to love Pakistan and why they think I will love Pakistan. No rights of me, when I come across the check point at Karkhanu Market, the attitude of police, they stare at me like I have a thousand Kg Bomb attached my body, no education for my children no health, most of all they didn’t consider as Pakistan at all. The FCR which is a blind law, I need to ask why. If it means you are not considering me as a Pakistani because the FCR is the law of British colonialism, then don’t think we would be Pakistan and we would love Pakistan. They kill my children and as Pakhtoon I have to take revenge no matter what they call us a Terrorist, and IS militant, extremist. The people you see are fighting for their rights not terrorism”

When I listen to him it was very devastating for me the view of the person not him only all of them believe and view like that. And the same question form all of us what we have done for them nothing. Youth there is ultimately engage in activities so called Talibanization. Thousand of brave men died in vain, what was there fault they could be best and fruitful in the development of Pakistan if we consider them as Pakistanis. May stories when you visit FATA u will be shocked and cry over the strategy of our country how we plan for FATA. Indeed a great loss thousand of intelligent, brave and youth with a very creative mind died for no reason. Over and above when a soldier died he is called as martyr by us and when terrorist dies he is called as martyr by them. On both side Muslim dies, I don’t know what the logic behind the military operation and use of iron and blood against them, first give them their rights them protect it its responsibility of the government.

Few years back 18 people were killed at Bara Alam Gudar and their bodies were brought to Peshawar and protects again the security officials whom they believed that government has killed these people. and those men were innocent, inspire of hearing their voice the police men beat them brutally and clean the premises of governor house at Peshawar. This is how we treat them. now how can we suppose them as Pakistan loving citizens is a question mark. 

Now it’s the time NOW OR NEVER before it’s too late and we reach at point of no return which I see it that people of this belt raise the voice of independent state, for liberty and rights. Let unite for them Plan for them give them their rights. These are the people who will fights for Pakistan who will be devoted to sacrifice everything for Pakistan if we consider them and accept them as Pakistani. If we not then in their own word it’s not terrorism but the fight of Rights and Liberty.