Parenting

#Parenting

As we know that social/moral/ethical issues happens in society. We all protest against it but  as we know that too it change start from self. In order to bring any change in society we need to start it from ourselves.

Hundreds of cases we see or read in newspapers/blogs/television/social media. Unethical things happens with most of the girls and now it started with boys to i.e (few week earlier at karachi tariq road reported case).

Did anyone asked from himself why? Why these things happend? Why our children ( all of these are our children I belive do.bad things) act like this? Harass people (mostly women) why they pass comments? Stare or even some go to extreme u ethical criminal activities like rape? Tell me how many of us talk about this with out children Or even bothered asked from their children or daughters about any such issue happend with them? Anyone?....

I am sure not but few. As i said above it start from self. Family instituion is the first place where a child start learning. #Parenting yes it matter alot and it the base from which a child may move in good direction or bad direction.

We need to start educating them about moral or ethical values. Educate them spend time with them. Buying them an Applie Iphone or a laptop or financing them for a higher degree isnt a full stop. It might become a well higher degree person not a Respected or honorable Man.

Spend time with your children. Talked about their daily progress. Taught them how to speak, how to respond to anyone. How to tackle a bad moment. After puberty certain changes occurs in their appearnce or body their interest changes. Yes literally talk to them and dont be ashamed of it that how could a father talk to his son about this or a mother to his daughter. Educate them as many cases of abuse reported because of no proper knowing of children about this.. Educate them that dont allow someone to touch you or manipulate you.

These are small things that matter alot and because of lack of this kinda education from parents. Women are feeling unsafe, child abuse happens.

Lets start from now and from ourselves so that we could march towards a peaceful and morally well reputed society.

Equality before law

“Equality before law” and how much state role in important in implementation of rule of law is a question that needs an answer, to be realistic the answer is that it depends how much state is interested. The current status of our country it’s not moving towards development not even a bit, reason inequality, a student work day and night to get a degree and a good position but at the end a person with no knowledge at all get what he didn’t deserve and the deserved person fell in havoc and results in moving towards illegal business and criminal activity because, stomach need food and food needs money and money need job and job needs reference or money it’s a fact in case of Pakistan. Among the thousands of criminal cases that happened in Pakistan the root cause will be inequality and injustice. A culprit is set free and an innocent is jailed for years that turn out in revenge at last. So the government will play a role when they are interested in human when they agree to invest on human and its citizens. It is important that the son of a minister study with me at government school or me as a poor man study with the son of a minister. Equality need sacrifices, sacrifices of you luxury, of highness and it’s the equality that can bring peace and prosperity.  

Tolerance can be a hope for Better world

Tolerance as we can define it’s an aptitude to understand and bear things that are unpleasant to you. I consider tolerance as supreme power of an individual, because as we see people nowadays intolerant and become violent very quickly. So I can define it as a supreme nurture of oneself that motivate his body and his/her mind to absorb unpleasant things. Now how tolerance can be a new hope for a better world. As my above definition if a person adopt that quality of tolerance as I said one need to nurture this quality and absorb the odd of others he will not become hyper at all. Yes we need to see the motto behind what a person said, how is his body language his use of words perhaps there might be an answer of his intolerant behavior and we might educate him about that specific issue he is freaked out of. A unite and tolerant society can bring peace and everything is linked with peace and unity. We are all of same kind, by accepting people as they are no matter what caste, religion, color and race they belong to, we need to accept people as they are as they look as they behave. Why that is a person exercising prayer is not equal or even not human in comparison of a person sitting in a church. God didn’t make the difference but we the human did. We are all being manipulated by so called mentors that define us as Muslims or infidels and colored. We need to develop ourselves to defines ourselves as human not as people belonging to certain group or religion. We need to be humans and humanity is the religion that I am belonging to. Tolerance can be a new hope for better world if we unite against the odd and educate ourselves and our children and our family members to accept people their behaviors and don’t freak-out or bother to develop hate. We need love and whole world need love and compassion to share smile and laughter among others, life is a beautiful and temporary things and we need to make it beautiful. At last let me share news with that is very important. “love, compassion, gratitude, smile, happiness and tolerance are some words and emotions that are need to be share with other because they might be vanished at anytime from earth crust so better use is daily and regularly. May God Bless us all and unite us for humanity and brotherhood. 

Independence

What does independent mean? The word independent is a very outrageous word that is being the point of matter from the day first human was sent to earth. Independence, freedom, living freely, these are some things that a human want, it is in the nature of human to live free, to walk free, to run free, to breathe free under the open sky, to travel where ever he want, to speak what he wanted to say.  It’s Human  nature as is as I they resist when they are deprived for this freedom and history is full of such movement that were started for what yes, one and only word independence.

Virginia Woolf (an English writer and one of the foremost modernist of the twentieth century) views independence as “the man who is aware of himself is henceforward independent: and he is never bored and life is only too short and he is steeped through and through with a profound yet temperate happiness”

The word I used for freedom above is outrageous, I guess it a just for it. History never lie, from Nelson Mandela freedom movements to current movement i.e. Kashmir and Palestine, all of the sacrifices they have made, Mandela was imprisoned for 27 years, Pakistan sacrificed a lot of blood to get freedom, Kashmir’s and Palestine’s are still struggling, every day hundred of children, women, and men are killed, bombed by Indian and Zionists, for what because they want independence, they wanted to live freely, they wanted to educate their children with their own customs and rituals, they wanted to sleep a night in peace, they wanted to be seen as humans but the so called civilized world is deaf and blind.

Denis Waitley (an American motivational speaker writer and consultant) says that “the greatest gifts you can give your children are the roots of responsibility and the wings of independence”

That is what independence mean that, mothers are sacrificing they little kids, fathers their young sons, and families their loved one for what for freedom, for independence this is the cost of such an outrageous word independence. This is not only a word, it’s an emotion, a history, defining it need a lot of courage, finger trembles while writing this word, one need to go through a lot of history, the writer needs to watch a lot of bloodshed, cruelty, suffocation, brutalities, beheaded humans, slaughtered children, a lot of tears, a lot of screaming, a lot of heartbreaks and indeed he also need independence from his tears, from his heart just write a simple meaning of independence, as the former President of Vietnam (Ho Chi Minh) said “nothing is more precious that independence and liberty”